Gifts were given to the bride and a cup called the cup of the covenant was shared between the bride and the groom.
The gifts given to the bride are an expression of love, commitment and loyalty. The groom and his bride complete the rite of betrothal with the groom giving the bride something of value, and the bride accepting the gift.
This equation would make a perutah worth two cents. A day’s wages would have been around twenty cents.
The second reads: "Blessed art Thou, O Lord our God, King of the universe, who has hallowed us by Thy commandments, and hast given us command concerning forbidden marriages; who hast disallowed unto us those that are betrothed but hast sanctioned unto us such as are wedded to us by the rite of the nuptial canopy and the sacred covenant of wedlock. Blessed art Thou, O Lord, who hallowest Thy people Israel by the rite of the nuptial canopy and the sacred covenant of wedlock" 10 This benediction is recorded in Talmud and is stated there that it appears that the benediction was in fact a warning to the betrothed couple not to cohabit until that ceremony.
In most cases some of the bride’s price was given back to the bride. Those fathers that could afford to would give their daughters more would. When Rebekah left her father's house to be the bride of Isaac, her father gave her a nurse and also handmaidens who were to be her attendants. And Caleb gave to his daughter a dowry of a field with springs of water. 11
Gen 24:53 Then the servant brought out jewelry of silver, jewelry of gold, and clothing, and gave them to Rebekah. He also gave precious things to her brother and to her mother. 54
Gen 24:59,61 (NKJV) 59 So they sent away Rebekah their sister and her nurse, and Abraham's servant and his men…Then Rebekah and her maids arose, and they rode on the camels and followed the man
Judges 1:12-15 (NKJV) Then Caleb said, "Whoever attacks Kirjath Sepher and takes it, to him I will give my daughter Achsah as wife." 1 And Othniel the son of Kenaz, Caleb's younger brother, took it; so he gave him his daughter Achsah as wife. Now it happened, when she came to him, that she urged him to ask her father for a field. And she dismounted from her donkey, and Caleb said to her, "What do you wish?" So she said to him, "Give me a blessing; since you have given me land in the South, give me also springs of water." And Caleb gave her the upper springs and the lower springs.
As believers, once we accept Yeshua (Jesus) our Messiah, the gift that is lavished upon us is the Holy Spirit. This is the rite of kiddushin, for it is the continual conviction from the Holy Spirit that sanctifies us. When Yeshua (Jesus) ascended to Heaven, He gave gifts to men. The greatest of all gifts that He has given us is of course, the gift of salvation and that of eternal life. Along with the gifts of the Spirit which are, wisdom, knowledge, healing, the working of miracles, prophecy, the discerning of spirits, tongues, and interpretation of tongues, are the gifts of helps and administration. Other gifts include righteousness, grace, and faith and the list goes on and on. Messiah our bridegroom showers us with gifts of the Spirit and so many gifts as well in the natural. He provides for our every need. They are all of them, gifts given as expressions of His love commitment and loyalty. As our bridegroom, He is completing the kiddushin, “rite of betrothal”. He will complete our sanctification during our betrothal period.
The cup is placed in front of her, while the groom nervously awaits her decision to drink or not to drink. When she drinks of the cup it is her yes that seals the marriage contract. 12 The groom also drinks from the cup and he then says to his bride, “I will not drink from this cup again until we are reunited”. It is his pledge to be faithful to her until he returns to get her. It is at this point that the second betrothal benediction would have been pronounced. 13
Yeshua is a gentleman and He wants His bride to come willingly. He never forces himself on us. Rather, He offers us the cup of the covenant to drink. It then becomes our choice to drink or not to drink. This cup of the covenant that we call communion, is so much more than a cup of remembrance, it is a proposal, an act of betrothal. It is offered to His bride and once she drinks of the cup, she seals the marriage contract which is the new covenant that is written in her heart.
Yeshua (Jesus) referred to this cup when He was dining with his disciples during the Passover meal.
Luke 22:20 (NKJV) Likewise He also took the cup after supper, saying, "This cup is the new covenant in My blood, which is shed for you.
His reference to the cup of the covenant is spoken of in Jeremiah as follows:
Jeremiah 31: 31-33 Behold, the days come, saith the Lord, that I will make a new covenant with the house of Israel and with the house of Judah: not according to the covenant that I made with their fathers in the day that I took them by the hand to bring them out of the land of Egypt; which My covenant they brake, although I was an husband unto them, saith the Lord: but this shall be the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel: After those days, saith the Lord, I will put My law in their inward parts, and write it in their hearts; and will be their God, and they shall be My people.
9 Catholic Bible
10 From the Talmud, Hertz, Prayer, 1011
11 Manners and Customs of Bible Lands
12 The thief in the night, Zola Levitt
13 The Talmud
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